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Why Do People Fail?

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I found this article earlier and I thought it was interesting. I’ve heard things like this before, but I liked this guy’s concise, straightforward approach to the topic. I can definitely relate to his #2 reason why people fail: Fear. There have been many times in my life where I refrained from doing something because I was scared of (1) not succeeding and/or (2) looking stupid or foolish.  In hindsight I can see that about 90% of these feelings of fear stem from me being concerned about what other people think me. I know this is completely ridiculous, and yet it is still an issue I grapple with often. This is why James’ “fix” for fearing failure resonates with me:

Fix: Decide–right now!–that failure, for you, is a strictly temporary condition. If things don’t go the way you’d like, it’s only a setback that, at most, delays your eventual success. In other words, accept the fact that you’ll sometimes fail, but treat that failure as an unavoidable (yet vital) component in your quest.”

I’ve got some work to do before I reach the point where the idea of failing doesn’t bother me, but I know that it’s something I can (and will) overcome because ultimately my desire to be happy and prosperous outweighs my fear of anything else.

It’s Kind of Amazing How We Constantly Underestimate Ourselves

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It's Kind of Amazing How We Constantly Underestimate Ourselves

I was talking to my dad today, and I had a moment where I thought to myself, “I am capable of so much more than I realize.” Let me give you the context for this fairly random epiphany: a discussion about language learning.My father is a native French speaker, however he did not speak to me in French as I grew up. As a result of that I have spent many, many years trying to learn French on my own with varying levels of success (at the moment my level is pretty basic). I have asked him before to talk to me only in French, but he’ll typically do it only for a little while then switch back to English.

During our conversation about my 4 yr old cousin, Oracle, who lives in Paris (who was picking up English very well the last time I saw him in France), it occured to me that I always beat myself up for my lackluster language skills, when in fact I am decent enough in French to get around and I am actually fairly conversational in German. In thinking about my time in Deutschland, I was reminded that it’s kind of crazy how much you can accomplish when you have no choice/tell yourself that there is no other option but to succeed and move forward.

When I got to Germany last August I knew absolutely no German- the extent of my knowledge was “auf wiedersehen” (because that’s what Heidi Klum would say  when people were sent home on Project Runway) and Edel Weiss (God bless The Sound of Music). For the first couple of weeks, I didn’t learn much Detsch because all my teammates spoke English too well (it was an interesting problem to have 😉 ). It wasn’t until I started taking  a class that my learning took off.

My teacher, Frau Kindermann, was a lovely woman who was originally from Argentina and spoke only Español and Deutsch. Seeing as how my 2 years of highscool Spanish were a joke; her Spanish abilitiy didn’t really make a difference for me… Sounds like a  difficult and extremely intimidating situation, doesn’t it? It was. I remember feeling completely exhausted- both mentally and physically- after my first class. I don’t think I’ve ever had to think/work that hard before in my life. We (my roommate and I) joined the class late, and all the other students had already been living in Germany for months (even years) so we walked into a room where both the teacher and the students were speaking only Deutsch. There was no German to English translation (or vice versa), nothing. Initially I was overwhelmed, but I am so glad I had that experience. It forced me out of my comfort zone and I knew that I had the choice to either sit there in a stoic frustration for months or to challenge myself to be more intuitive and work my way through each day. I am happy to say that I took the second route and learned sooooo much over the next few months!

So what’s the point I’m really trying to make here- that you have to go to another country to learn a language?! Haha, no! My point is that there are so many times in life where we really want to do something, but we talk ourselves out of it or quit before we ever really even start because the task/thing seems impossible or unattainable. Why? Why don’t we take that challenge and use it as fuel to motivate us? I am going to be fluent in both French and German. How? By forcing myself out of my comfort zone and making the effort (watching German/French tv & movies, listening to the radio, having conversations with native speakers) to immerse myself in the language.

And this not only applies to language learning, but to every other facet of my life. For instance, my recent involvement with Wake Up Now is something that plenty of people look down on. I, however, see the potential in it and know that through it I have the chance to change my future. So instead of giving up on it because it’s a little difficult, I’m going to push myself even harder to achieve success.  I’m going to stop doubting myself and simply go for what I want.

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Yep, I Joined Wake Up Now!

So I recently got involved with Wake Up Now and it’s honestly changed my life. I know that you hear about it and immediately think: “What? It’s that simple and you start making hundreds (then thoudands) of dollars? Please- This must be a scam.” But the truth is: it’s not. Wake Up Now is affiliated with hundreds of different companies, like AT&T, Verizon, T-Mobile, Walmart, Visa and etc. that offer real discounts and benefits through WUN. I should know, I’m now saving 22% off my AT&T bill. That’s not some sort of abstract or hypothetical scenario- I joined at the beginning of last month and now I’m seeing the benefits.

On top of all the discounts and services (financial planning, identity protection, the Tell Me More language learning software, 65-80% off 7 day vacation packages, etc), WUN offers the most amazing compensation plan:

1. Invest $100 (yes, the membership is $100 a month, but keep reading)

2. Help 3 people join (now your membership is completely free)

3. Your 3 people each get 3 (bam- now you’re making $600 a month)

It doesn’t get any simpler than that.

Now I know that this isn’t for everyone: there are people who will still think it’s fake, I’m fake or whatever and that’s cool. Simply disregard this post. However if you’re someone who is tired of struggling and thinks that this is an opportunity that could change your life, like it’s changing mine, then message me. Whether or not people sign up with me or not- I don’t even care. Just sign up! There’s way to much potential for success and prosperity here for you not to.